At present human kind is witnessing an acceleration of change in all structures around us, be it cultural, political, spiritual, scientific, economic or ecological. In amongst these changes, we set out to integrate our relationship with ourselves, each other and society. We have been conditioned to think, feel and act a certain way and now everything is changing. We are often left wondering how to assimilate this into our lives and how to respond to these changes.

It is no wonder that more and more people are having challenges with different relationships in their lives. How an individual responds in relation to others will vary depending on the individuals past experiences. Also it is fair to say that if an individual is not dealing effectively with the stresses of these monumental changes, problems will almost surely arise in their relationships.

Life is relationship. We learn and grow through our experiences and relationships with others and ourselves. We are our relationships. Our relationships are a direct mirror of our inner state of being. Our relationships give meaning to our very existence.

Also, unlike prehistoric times, we are no longer exposed to as many physical threats. Today our survival is more dependent on socialisation. Our ability to survive and prosper is much more dependent on our social and intellectual skills. How we relate to others and socialise has evolved to where individuality, individual ability and achievement are honoured and social adeptness, outward courage and conformity are rewarded while the opposite leads to shame and a sense of failure as a human being.

Family Issues

Relationships can become strained in families for many varied reasons, ranging from poor communication, financial hardship, poor behaviour and violence, substance abuse, grief or loss to generational differences caused by great change.

For changes to occur, a change is needed in the way the individual thinks and feels and therefore responds to family members. To do this, it is important that each individual identifies that ideals around family relationships and we pass on tools and techniques for healthier communication.

Anger Issues

Depending on the life experience of the individual, anger and related poor behavioural patterns can become a habitual, normal way of behaving. This behaviour is a direct result of the persons conditioning and life experiences, therefore the individual can condition themselves to behave differently.

It is important for the individual to understand that their self value has nothing to do with their behaviour. Their behaviour is a habit they learnt. Their value is innate and intrinsic. This behaviour has become normal for them and it is necessary for the person to learn a new normal.

Substance Abuse

When there is excessive Substance Abuse, the individual’s relationships with their family and loved ones can become strained. The family and friends may also experience stress as they find they feel helpless to help their loved one.

For the individual, as they learn about the cause and how they can change this habit they have developed, it is also necessary for them to gain more perspective into their relationships, so that they have the confidence to approach their friends and family with understanding and bridge the gap that has formed.

For the other, it is important to have an understanding that their stress is not caused by the substance abuser themselves, it is caused by what they belief about the situation and what it means about them. From this point they can reconnect with their loved one in a healthier way.

Our Approach

Here at RENEW, we understand the importance of experiencing and developing good relationships with ourselves and others. This is why we spend time educating our guests on the true cause of relationship issues and how to overcome these and foster more meaningful and joyful relationships in their lives. This may be in their relationships with their closest friends and loved ones, their work colleagues, acquaintances or the person they pass on the street.

It is important that each person understands that they need to heal the relationship with themselves first and foremost and then others. Each individual needs to understand that they need to give the love and care to themselves that they would to their best friend or a new born baby.

We give you your confidence back, give you the skills to develop more self awareness and nurture an attitude of appreciation and gratitude, so that you bring more compassion and empathy into your relationships with others. We educate you with the skills and tools to apply in your communication with others and we practice these in a one on one and group environment, encouraging greater emotional resilience.

We encourage everyone to set a vision for all of their relationships. When a relationship becomes strained, we remind you to remember your vision and reconnect with the other person.